Struggles with goal setting
I sure do struggle with goal setting.
It's probably something to do with my ADD. It seems that any time I set a goal, this defiant, avoidant gremlin pops up that says 'fight that fucken thing, man' and the goal becomes about trying to overcome the gremlins wishes instead of the goal itself.
Am I alone in this? I hope not.
This has created an avoidant feedback loop where I basically have to approach my goals from the side, and use my aligned wants and desires to sort of hack my way into avoiding the defiance gremlin.
It works for some things and really does not work for others, and there's no obvious rhyme or reason to what works and what doesn't.
If I'm being honest with myself - if the goal is important enough to me or important enough to accomplish, I am able to buckle down and do it well enough, and usually ahead of schedule. There are, however, a number of goals that are second order, which means I have to unblock one thing to accomplish the next thing - those are nearly impossible.
Anyway, if you're reading this and you can relate, I hope it helps to know you aren't alone; the gremlin lives with me, too.